I’ve coached many who don’t notice the signs until it’s too late. Until they’ve moved in or invested in someone for a year or more. Until they have committed, went “all in”, exchanged vows, decided to build something. The signs they notice they choose to swallow as the norm. They feel the cement is dry. So they minimize, ignore, or just accept the relationship as it is, and with that decision comes drift, feeling trapped, and internalization — believing it’s their fault or that they are defective and lacking in some way.