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Get hotter-than-ever bedroom romps Ok, moment of truth: you know all the advice out there for having hot, amazing sex? Well, for any of it to work, you need to first start with a burning desire to do the deed. But the biggest complaint I get from the smart, successful women I counsel is they�re not always up for it. Daily stresses and distractions can really zap your sex drive. Read on for the solutions I�ve found that really work. The problem: Stress overload Sex-drive reset: So you�ve got so many things going on (work, kids, book club) that sex is last on your list? The solution is simply to slow down, so you can tune into your sensual side. Carving out 10 minutes at night to relax in the bath is far more likely to get you in the mood than doing chores. The irony is that sex is a natural stress reliever, so the more you have, the less frazzled you'll feel. The problem: Feeling less than hot Sex-drive reset: Of course, it�s hard to look forward to sex if you�re worried about your man seeing that dimple or two on your thighs. But, trust me, most men are just thrilled to be naked with you. Still, if you�re uncomfortable, sex is sure to be, too. So how do you overcome your insecurity? Think about what you love about your body�the way it feels, moves, or your favorite body part. If you�re truly out of shape, commit to a workout program, which will improve your health and energy level. A sexy nightgown that fits just right can be a real confidence booster, too, so go ahead and treat yourself. The problem: Bottled-up resentment Sex-drive reset: He left his bureau drawers open again? Even seemingly little issues in a relationship can build resentment over time, causing desire to take a nosedive. Ask yourself, "Am I not in the mood because I�m mad at him?" If the answer is yes, get it out in the open. Being up front really helps build a strong bond, which is the basis of a healthy sex life. Another safeguard against resentment: regularly show each other you care through affectionate touching that doesn�t lead to sex, talking about your shared goals, and making time for date nights. The problem: Those nightcaps Sex-drive reset: While one glass of wine may decrease your inhibitions and up your sex drive, more than that can dampen your sexual response by decreasing vaginal lubrication and vasocongestion (blood flow and swelling of genital tissue); both necessary for sexual pleasure. So limit yourself to one drink or less a night.