Some good relationship advice before considering marriage is to take the time to ask questions that plumb the inner depths of your partner’s personality and psychology.
Here are eleven questions you can ask to his or her suitability for a marriage partner:
1. Why do you love me? – This is a questions that lovers have asked each other from the beginning of time, but it does provide real information about their psychological and social needs in a mate. If the focus seems to be on what you have or what you can provide materially in the marriage, you might need to look elsewhere for an authentic commitment.
2. What are you goals and are you willing to adjust them for the relationship? – This question can reveal what priority the relationship has in the overall life plan. If the individual is more to achieve life goals and expects you to do all the adjusting, it could be an unfavorable sign.
3. Do you know how to compromise? – Compromise is the essence of a good marriage. A person who shows an inclination to feel “it’s my way or the highway” is not a good candidate for the negotiations and compromises that marriage requires.
4. What’s your relationship with your family? – A bad relationship with family can indicate issues that could affect the marriage. Similarly, someone is too close to his or her family may be so enmeshed that the marriage may not come first. Relationship counseling can help to resolve these issues.
5. Why do you want to spend your life’s journey with me? – This answer can tell you about the expectations of your partner and whether relationship therapy might be needed to create healthier expectations about your role in the marriage.
6. Can you keep the romance alive? – Someone who understands the value of keeping romance alive will actively work to invigorate the relationship over time.
7. Can’t you work through the rough patches. Someone who dislikes conflict or who cannot work out differences will make a poor marriage partner.
8 . What are your parenting skills? – If you intend to have children, the previous family experiences of your partner can have a significant effect on his or her ability to parent.
9. Can you commit to grow with me instead of away from me? – This answer can tell you whether the person understands the nature of close relationships and the constant maintenance they require.
10. Will you continue to grow in the relationship? – A person that continues to have hobbies and interests that are separate from the marriage will make a more interesting and independent partner.
11. If My Life Is Cut Short, Will You Honor My Memory Forever? – An individual that will continue to hold that relationship in memory as a valuable experience, rather than close the book on it, is likely to make the most of the time you have together.
Hopefully you enjoyed this article. It is important to find the right person to marry. If you make the mistake of marrying the wrong person it can have very bad consequences.
Read it again and make sure you take it to heart.
Source: happylifereport.com
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hahaha guys the writer of this article begs u.. the insults are too much.. naaaaniiiama! u fink marriage is a joke abi.. pray for a descerning spirit to be able to recognize ur soul mate.. with ur soul mate everyfin falls in place no mattter the type of character u have..he/she wud adjust naturally
Very ***barred word***!
All what they said doesn't make any sense mmmmmm We need (religious person)
i don't see any useful information in this piece, instead advice the ladies to be humble so we marry them. its hard to come by a married material lady these days, everyone is aggressively chasing wealth and fame.no matter what they do men will always be boys
How do you measure this so called commitments. I think the best measure is her religion. With religion she will honour all these without you or your supervision.
hw3 Asem!!!! Is it an interview we are conducting in the relationship? These questions are ridiculous. These are the type of things that get people confused in serious relationships. Question 2 is the silliest.
Superflous, all these questions call for more lies and lies and lies in the relationship
The writer is a drunkard
I thought this was a sensible write up. mtseeeeww
all those questions are irrelevant, just because what if the answers are best ones to you? you will get into it and you will see the real life and human nature....... Marriage is how you keep it to suit you. you can ask people who has marry for 30 years and more and they will tell you "you are seeing it beautiful outside you come home and see what we do" all this marriage concealers are all lies, they will not tell you the real things in living with someone in the same room.