The argument on whether or not a wife should be cooking for her husband took an interesting twist on social media platform, Facebook, as prominent legal practitioner, Ace Ankomah engaged in a war of words with Dela Goldheart, a lady believed to be a staunch feminist.
In a piece which captured some marriage tips he offered his friend, Kobby Addo, Ace Ankomah indicated that the responsibility of a man is to provide money for the home while that of the wife is to ensure that the home is properly managed and that according to him includes the kitchen.
He posited that these roles cannot be swapped so irrespective of whether the woman chooses to work or not, the kitchen is part of her primary responsibilities.
“A woman, even when she works (and every woman should work, if she can) should provide only if she wants to. But she is in charge of everything else that has to do with the home. Yes, it is her kitchen, not mine. That’s why she chose everything in there. My only space in the house is my basement. Everywhere else is hers. I don’t care. Just don’t paint our room pink. That’s all,” portions of his post read.
“Don’t MAKE her do it. PROVIDE the means to do it so that even if she doesn’t do it herself or isn’t there to do it, it still gets done. For example, I expect dinner when I get home; and meals when I’m home. You don’t have to cook it. You don’t have to serve it. Just make sure the system I have provided for produces and delivers the food.
“In the same vein, I don’t wash, clean, sweep, vacuum, dust, or do any house work. I am “DADDY.” That’s why I live in Ghana and not in the US,” he noted.
Ace Ankomah’s assertion appeared to have infuriated Dela Goldheart as she expressed utmost disappointment in him for taking such stance.
“I never thought I will say this about you but I guess career excellence and knowledge in law doesn't make you exceptional when it comes to issues affecting women. You grew up in a patriarchal society. The system is designed to favour you. You had no education on gender equality when growing up. But you know what? That can be changed. You have everything your wife has. I know you are smart enough to see that your wife does not use her vagina to cook or order food. And when it comes to strength, you even have more (likely). So if anyone should work and cook, it should be you. And one more thing, the meaning of daddy and mommy has never been static. Those who improve the world understand that change is one of the factors of progress. Think about it,” she argued.
Unhappy about the remarks, Ace Ankomah responded describing the thoughts of Dela as “jaundiced”.
“The problem with some of you is that you think every male thinks in a certain way and that it is up to you to educate us. Madam, the person who needs education here is staring right at you in your mirror.
“And where did you get the nonsense from about cooking with a vagina? Are you stupid or just deranged? Does the anonymity of social media give you the right to speak tosh to everyone. You would be proud to be associated with my wife for just 5 minutes in your life. Twit!!
“Take your personal frustrations and bitterness with life elsewhere and get the heck off my page with your angry, rabid and misdirected feminism. Learn to show respect to yourself first. You are a young woman with serious psyche issues. You need help,” he fired back.
Source: Ghanaweb.com
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Eiii is this dela girl married?
When they get frustrated beyond some limits, they tag themselves as "feminists" and push all sorts of cr*azy ideas. Let them chance on a good man, and suddenly all their "feminism" nons*ense sublimes. This Dela character sounds like a complete 1diot.
Calm down Ace. She will soon be calling herself ODEHYE NENE YIRI. When these feminist get married, they do the very things they always used to criticize.
There they go again.These women who think that once you get an education,get your hands on the fake things they use these days[fake bottoms fake hips,fake eye brows ,fake eyelashes fake breasts]they can change century old roles.Imagine a woman saying she can't date a man who wears white socks.What hogwash.Are the white socks permanently sewn to a man's feet?These are the women who cry themselves to sleep every night 'cause no guy is interested in their n0ns3ns3.
Why do you choose to give this answer just because she is your country woman?you people must stop defending your people when it's not necessary. Why should she first of all intrude on somebody's Facebook wall to comment something towards a particular person but not everyone? You seem to get bitter easily on any little thing and want to be heard but it doesn't go that way. Silence is golden and you need to learn that. You've been running on social media with all kinds of names to disguise yourselves but the contents of your write ups give you away. The h*te and bitterness vernom that comes out let everyone know where it's coming from. Is it a force to talk when there is nothing to say ?
Dela and the likes, are they married, do they have husbands or man in the house? I rest here.
They should marry themselves. Afterall they all share the same goals and ideas, so marry yourselves and treat each other equally. ***barred word***
This is the reason why most women doesn't have husband because they think being educated means women and men will be equal, hahaha brain wash a man has manhood and you the ladies have Vag... So until you can have a manhood we can never be the same, you will always be under us, that immature doctrine of the western , you can not bring it here, their government takes care of their children for them, up to 18 years whilst hear the parents take care of their children up to the time they get work and marry so you can't bring their doctrine here ok, once you have a hole and we have a stick, you have to know we can never be the same
Feminism? How it pains me sometimes that I respect women, because they dont even respect themselves. Feminism? Do women have any idea who they are? You sell your bodies for less than a dollar, dress like toys, compete ***barred word***, yet want whatever it is you call equalization. Women should stop playing the role of God and let us have peace. Some of us respect you greatly even though you have it not for yourselves. I will want to help my wife or any woman for that matter in their responsibilities but it should not mean they are MINE resp.
Well said Ace Ankoma, These so called feminists are destroying marriages of gullible women with so much deceit. They think their failures are the gospel truth and the new paradigm. These ***barred word*** hole feminists must give us a break.